Hey everybody! I am not spending much time at the computer just now, what with it being summer and all. Just got back from Yosemite, off to the beach today after my husband and I deliver Meals on Wheels. But I did want to take a second to thank the hundreds of people who have emailed me in support of my work and my life. I appreciate your kindness beyond words.

And the many men who have written to express regret over the cruel things that other men have posted to my sites just confirms what I have been saying all along: men are fully capable of compassion and humanity. We all need to endorse and encourage and support this type of behavior while continuing to make it clear that male arrogance and entitlement are abhorrent and inappropriate, everywhere at all times, but particularly in a democracy.

A recent study suggests that college men feel that it's uncool to admit they take their education seriously or to appear to care about their lives. Let's work together for a world in which self-care is part of what we call masculinity and not something boys are embarrassed to cultivate. Eliminating male self-loathing can only benefit everyone, both the men who have to live with it and the women and other marginalized groups who bear the hatred projected upon us as guys desperately try to find self-worth in a system that validates them for being cruel. No one who exists solely to put others down can ever love himself or find intimacy with his fellow human beings.

Men have also told me that as long as they don't assault women, they don't see themselves as part of the problem. But that just means they permit an atmosphere of oppression to go by unchallenged. We are all responsible. So when you see someone propagating misogyny, speak up, speak out, say no. It's not ok to call a someone a bitch; it's not ok to make a joke of rape; it's not ok to use racist, sexist, classist or homophobic language.

It's not ok. It's not ok. It's not ok. Find the courage to say so. If I have, so can you. After all, you've got waaaaay more testosterone than I do..... And the life you enhance just might be your own.

Here's a link to the Rita Cosby interview. I am deeply grateful for the chance to spread a message of acceptance and love to a wide audience, even as it was made possible by attempts to humiliate and silence me.

Peace.