A Prayer of Thanks for Friends
Today a former student sent me this after finding all of these angry people focusing on my website instead of themseves. I post it with her permission.
While Viagra is covered by insurance companies, but birth control pills and abortions aren't, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While a man rapes a women every four minutes (360 women per day!) in this country, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While rape is used as a systematic tactic of war, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While women earn 75% as much as men do for the same job, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While women make up 51% of the world's population and yet own merely 1% of its wealth, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While governments attempt to regulate how much a woman owns her body and what's inside of it, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While one out of eight Hollywood movies contains a rape scene (usually from the POV of the rapist), I will be reading DYB's blog.
While Dr. Phil continues to tell his female patients that their lack of desire for sex has nothing to do with the fact that their husbands don't help out with the kids or chores, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While Oprah Winfrey, Lifetime TV, and Hollywood in general continue to make millions by exploiting and depicting women suffering, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While there are people out there who believe that being pro-woman and pro-choice and pro-self-love means being a man-hating feminazi, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While art that objectifies naked, and often decapitated women, is considered laudable (and put on display in the middle of Beverly Hills (for example)(gag me!)), and yet art depicting objectified penises creates riots (read Barbara Kingsolver's book Small Wonder for an essay about this smalltown scandal), I will be reading DYB's blog.
While women continue to oppress their sisters of color and different class, instead of bonding together in sisterhood, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While women continue to believe that mutilating their bodies via plastic surgery will solve a problem that was actually created by sexism and not their bodies, I will be reading DYB's blog.
While people in this world are prevented from being their most radical wonderful selves, I will be reading DYB's blog and thanking my lucky stars that she's around, waiting for the day that she has a
radio talk show, too


Comments
While people who are filled with self loathing continue to take cheap shots at someone on the net, I will be reading DYB's blog.
Posted by: Liz | May 4, 2006 08:53 PM
While women of real importance such Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Amina Wadud and Wafa Sultan are out there talking about genital mutilation, Islamic oppression and ritual stoning of raped women labeled adulterers, DYB will be blogging about the poor woman who chose to not make her partner wear a condom having to drive an extra 10-miles for an abortion.
DYB has her priorities you know.
But that's what's really important.
Posted by: Scott | May 5, 2006 07:11 AM
I am glad you are concerned about poor women, Scott! Me too. It is precisely for this reason that we need to make sure no one has to bear a child she cannot afford just because some men have an intense need to control us and don't have to deal with the economic realities of poverty. As a student of the world, clearly you know that the majority of those who live in poverty are women and their children, and the cause of this travesty is their lack of power under sexist institutions--including horrific imperialist interventions by our own nation that spread misery. Glad you are concerned about this. We are definitely on the same page.
Posted by: Diana | May 5, 2006 08:40 AM
You are in a sense advocating abortion as retroactive birth control then?
How about safe sex, monogamy or--dare I say it--abstinence.
You talk alot on this train wreck about feeling good about oneself. How do you expect a woman who has an abortion to feel good about herself ever again?
Even the pseudonymous "Roe" says she greatly was effected by having an abortion and now is against it.
I am not against legalized abortion, I am against abortion used as a way to get rid of an unwanted child.
If a woman is living in poverty, perhaps it would be in her best interest to spring for a $2 box of condoms instead of a $500 abortion. It makes fiscal and moral sense.
Posted by: scott | May 5, 2006 10:24 AM
By the way, if you want to know who any of the women I mentioned above are, go to a conservative site because you won't read much about them on liberal sites.
There once was a time that being liberal meant you cared and had a backbone. Now they are the party of hating Bush and cozying up to whoever is anti-American.
It's a damn shame.
Posted by: scott | May 5, 2006 10:27 AM
the both of you make me sick. DYB and Dubya are essentially the same person, constantly repeating the same arguments without ever acknowledging any wrong.
Scott, women are going to get abortions whether it is legal or not. there is an important difference between making policy based on preaching about how people should act and observing how they actually behave. i dont know if you support abstinence-only education, but it doesnt work; it's that simple. and most women, like Roe, are not proud of getting abortions; noone says they like abortion. It is an important choice for women who don't feel they have choices.
And as for DYB, noone is going to read through that dumb letter praising you, it's just more of the same rhetoric you are always repeating. And, btw, recognizing that you relate everything in the world to feminist theory even when there is no relationship, as though it were the only thing you ever learned, does not make me full of self-loating. i am not the one who feels bad about my body or thinks people should pay attention to commercials. I had never noticed that chicken commercial before you made a big deal about it; now I actually enjoy watching it because I know how much it bothers you. It's ironic. It's a little offensive and then, wait, it's not about breasts, it's about chicken. People want large chicken breasts! Get it? You are so insecure and so sad.
Posted by: anonymous female | May 5, 2006 12:38 PM
Quite a dramatic poem. I have the perfect ending.
"I don't actually do anything about the above laundry list, but instead let a blowhard fill my head with illogical nonsense; I'm reading DYB's blog."
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DYB -- Why can't you answer why you still go to football games and why you know of so many unreported assaults? Why are these considered cheap shots instead of fair questions?
Posted by: john | May 5, 2006 01:57 PM
geile slet, die wil ik wel een vemen in de poep
Posted by: zatte gerrit | May 9, 2006 11:56 AM
I'm a little bit late to board the train, however, I had to say this.
People do pay attention to commercials, a lot more than you think.
It's not living if it don't have a brain.
Condoms are not fool proof for guranteeing no pregnancy. In fact, they're one of the weakest protections.
And of course, my favorite, trying to argue on the internet (and winning ...?) is like placing first in the special olympics. I'm glad these guys feel like inflating their egos, but seriously, we just think you're pricks. Get over yourself.
Posted by: Miki | May 9, 2006 03:47 PM
Too bad the condom broke when your parents were doing it. But then how else could we get a cool professor at USC such as yourself. and a female at that
Posted by: Kerri | May 9, 2006 06:23 PM
Hey look...its diane the butt kicker. Girl Power...cool
Posted by: rebecca | May 9, 2006 06:25 PM
Do us all a favor at USC...and LEAVE!! Stop speakin for all of the Woman. We like our shows on T.V. We like our hair salons and our nails done. Not every guys is an animal...except maybe your husband because your so fat u must have married another pig to compliment you. O ya this is really a USC cheerleader...we think u should shut up and get a makeover..and RUN..Run... lost those pounds
Posted by: USC Cheerleader | May 9, 2006 06:28 PM
Wow. A lot of vitrol, but not a lot of substance.
I can't speak to anyone else's situation, but my wife's insurance DOES cover birth control.
A man rapes a woman every 4 minutes? One in eight movies contains a rape scene? Pardon me if I have my doubts. We may need to examine terms again. This sounds a bit suspicious, like the 15-24 year old gangbangers shooting each other being counted as "child firearm deaths". At the very least, you need to be a bit more dicriminating in your movie picks.
Women earn 75% as much as men do for the same job? Where? What employer has two pay scales, based on gender? As often as I've heard this, I've _never_ found it to be true in the US.
Governments everywhere regulate what we can and cannot put in our bodies. It isn't just women. Get over it.
Dr. Phil, Operah, nd Lifetime are made popular _by_ women. Men don't watch these shows in statistically significant numbers. Hardly seems fair to complain about that... Same thing with all the plastic surgery; women do it to themselves. Honestly, guys are't that particular.
Pro-woman? That's fine, as long as you realize that freedom isn't zero-sum game, and that being pro-woman DOESN'T mean anti-male. Let's not use too broad a brush.
Pro-Choice? Great. Can men get some choices, too? Under our current law, a woman can abstain, use birth control, get an abortion, put her child up for adoption, abandon it, raise it on her own, or sue for support. No woman is a mother against her will. A man? Not even the abstinance can protect him if a woman lies about who the father is to the state, and his window to contest it may close before he eenknows he's at risk. So I'm a bit unsympathetic on that point.
I'mot sure I uderstand the art thing. Surely a naked, headless male torso is the equivelent of a naked, headless female one. Or is it your contention that a man is just a phallus?
Certainly racism and class prejudice are as bad as sexism. As for pastic surgery, again, women are much more cruel to their sisters than men are when it comes to appearance. Frankly, most men aren't that discriminating.
Are we thankful there are women who can think around? Absolutely. My doctor and my banker are both women, and probably smarter than I am, to my benefit. But my mechanic and my broker are men, and that doesn't seem to impair their functions, either.
Posted by: Ned Harrison | May 11, 2006 06:34 AM
Keep up the great work on your blog. Best wishes WaltDe
Posted by: WaltDe | August 31, 2006 11:59 AM